This came from #12638 and my many small frustrations from wanting to use
`-n` and not being able to.
We do not have any existing `-n` flags for this to be confused with.
I would wager that `-n` is such an entrenched short flag in build tools that it would
not make sense for us to use it with any other flag.
For a survey of where `-n` is used as a short, see
https://www.gnu.org/prep/standards/html_node/Option-Table.html#Option-Table
Fix cargo remove incorrectly removing used patches
### What does this PR try to resolve?
Fixes an issue where patches are being removed when member dependencies don't explicitly contain the patched crate.
Fixes#12419
### How should we test and review this PR?
- Created a test for the failing use case
- Verify passing test
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